Workplace Bullying Is On The Rise: 5 Verbal Self Defense Tips You Can Use To Beat The Office Bully

February 28, 2010 in Press by admin | No comments

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According to Unison (the public sector union), reports of bullying have doubled in the past ten years. Their survey of 7,000 workers found that more than one in three people had been victims of bullying in the past six months.

Dr Daniel Scott, author of ‘Verbal Self Defense in The Workplace’, says: “With the current financial climate, extra pressure has been put on managers and workers to get results. This has led to more aggressive targets, increased pressure, more criticism of co-workers and a very real concern for job security.”

With a general increase in stress and a call for cuts across the board, Daniel believes these conditions can bring out the worst in workplace bullies.

“Some bullies, particularly in line-management positions, see the current financial climate as justification to give co-workers a hard time. They’ll use people’s fear of losing their jobs as a stick to beat them with and may even decide to ‘clear out the trash’ by making their target’s work-life hell.”

This, added to the fact that unemployment is on the rise, creates a ‘me or them’ mentality amongst some workers leading to deliberate attempts to undermine what some people see as their rivals.

In Daniel’s new book, he lays out a 6-step system for freeing yourself from workplace bullying. Below are a few of his favourite side techniques for regaining the upper hand.

1. Say Nothing: Stoic entrenchment is about being unwilling to communicate – the result will be to shift more of the power and control within the conversation to you.

2. Withdraw Gracefully: Tactical withdrawal is having a predetermined excuses for you to leave the situation or put the conversation on hold until later.

3. Positive Intent: Putting the focus on what the bully is trying to accomplish through his or her bullying behaviors enables you to set the direction of the conversation towards what they want rather than focusing on their “problem” with you.

4. Set Compliance Conditions: Any time a bully gives one of their “problems” use a conditional closing statement which resolves their “problem” if they agree to change their bullying behaviour in some way. As an example… “So, if I [whatever they asked for], then you agree to [whatever you want]?”

5. Turn Their Behaviour Back On Them: When a bully refuses to acknowledge the existence of a problem it may be necessary to bring the behavior out in the open by labelling it in such a way that it would hurt their self image. You don’t need to be rude or unprofessional, here’s an example: “I really believe that telling everyone in the office I steal stuff when it’s not true is very childish and
immature. Why do you need to be like that?”

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“Verbal Self Defense in The Workplace: Proven Psychological Secrets to Help You Beat the Office Bully” by Dr Daniel Scott ISBN: 1907498028 is available now from Amazon and all good bookshops.
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WEBSITE LINKS
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Author’s Website:
http://www.verbaldefensetactics.com

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PRAISE FOR THE BOOK

“I really appreciate your book – I am getting a little frustrated with the victim-mentality out there and the idea that targets don’t play an active role in their own circumstances. So, thank you for
offering up some real and tangible advice about communication – which provides empowerment, as opposed to counseling – which facilitates the victim-mentality.”
Catherine Mattice, MA, Workplace Bullying Expert www.noworkplacebullies.com

“Dr. Scott’s book is a must-read for anyone who feels they are being verbally bullied at work. The book offers practical advice, guidelines and exercises for evaluating and dealing effectively with workplace bullies. You’ll learn how to stop feeling powerless and start using effective verbal defense strategies to resolve conflict.”
Janet Attard, www.businessknowhow.com

“Daniel’s use of explaining his ‘6 steps’ simply allows for the reader to gain ready insight into effective tools he or she can apply to everyday occurrences in and out of the office.”
Drew Van Brunt, MSW Separation & Divorce Coach, Victoria, BC

ARTICLES

Daniel Scott is an expert on handling bullying through verbal self defense and state management with a wealth of experience working successfully with his clients in Canada. He is always happy to provide free content in return for a “plug” for his book and is also available for exclusive commissions: Web: http://www.leanmarketingpress.com/contact

THE AUTHOR

DR. DANIEL SCOTT, MSC.D. is a professional Neuro Linguistic Programming Trainer and Consultant with a Research Doctorate in Metaphysical Science. In the area of self defense he has studied and compared a cross section of different martial art disciplines, including Aikido, Kendo, Renbukai Karate and Kung Fu. Daniel has dedicated the last decade of his life to studying techniques for building all the mental and emotional skills necessary to face any form of bullying in a multitude of different contexts. Working with input from colleagues around the world, he combined tactics from the gentle art of Aikido with information from the behavioral science of NLP and Language Patterns of Ericksonian Hypnosis to develop this new 6 step model for Verbal Self Defense.
Learn more at www.VerbalDefenseTactics.com

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